Friday, January 9, 2009

Remedy for a sore butt

We don't say boo-boo. We refer to body parts. It's the Montessori way, and I think boo-boo sounds ridiculous. I want my kid to say "My stomach hurts" or "I fell on my knee" not "I got a boo boo." And boys get hurt alot, so the Baboo knows all of his body parts.

A few weeks ago he was not looking where he was running (literally, his neck was at a 90 degree angle to the directional component of his velocity - it was a really strange sight, and you should try it sometime when you're in an open field) and he ran right into the sofa. The side of his face impacted a rather soft part of the sofa, resulting in a pretty decent bounce (you could almost here the -boiiiiing-) and then he skidded backwards on his bottom like a NBA player seeking a call.

So I went over to pre-empt the [fake] crying and kiss his cheek. A quick kiss, then the Baboo quickly stood up and took a couple of steps. Mission accomplished, I thought, and I stood to get back to whatever I was doing.

"Butt," the Baboo said, putting his hands on his lower back/upper butt.

"Yes." I said, deciding at that very moment that would be the official name of that body part. "That is your butt."

"Butt," he said again.

"Yes." I wasn't even listening. Mentally, I was picking out his clothes. It was morning, and there's a million things to do in the morning before I can even brush my teeth.

"Kiss it."

My first reaction wasn't to laugh or be annoyed, it was - how do I get out of this? What's my REASON for not kissing the butt and how do I explain this in a way that doesn't make him think about toileting or worse yet, that there's something wrong with what he said, and why that might be, and what the difference is and I'm not ready for this-- "NO," I said, and I really meant No to the panic of thoughts in my head, but the Baboo took it as NO I am not going to kiss your butt, and I guess it wasn't hurting that much by then anyway, so he went off to play with his wooden train.

Why is my 2 year old winning the battle of wills?

I have more discipline than him. I have more logic in my head than he does. I have more foresight to think about the consequences of giving in to his short-term needs. I am older, smarter, wiser, bigger, and more resourceful. I know what's better for him.

So why is he winning the battle of wills?

And maybe that phrase is throwing me off. He teacher said he's just being "willful" - which is the essence of being 2. He realizes he can choose and he wants to do what he wants to do, not because he really wants to do it, but just to see if he can. Do you want to go to the potty? No. And then - 20 seconds later - pee. Everywhere.

But is just wanting to test his limits? Or is he operating on pure instinct/desire: GIVE ME THAT. PICK ME UP. DON'T GO. I WANT BOTTLE. He commands and we obey. What the hell is going on here?

He's not smarter than me, is he? Because he sure gets his way alot.

Monday, November 10, 2008

Potty Training and Getting to School on Time

**This is the letter I wrote to the Baboo's teacher today explaining why we were late today. Potty training is a group effort between the Baboo, his parents, his Nani, and his wonderful Montessori Guide, Amanda. Today was the Baboo's first diaperless day at school.**

Hi Amanda,

Good news - Some time after his nap, [the Baboo] told my mom "poop!" at which point she rushed him over to the potty and he did his thing. He napped with his diaper on, and he's had it on part of the day, but used the toilet for urination when he was put there.

I did not get to tell you the full story of why we were late this morning.

the first urination -- sitting on the potty, but he held his penis like a water hose and got pee all over the floors & walls. He doesn't usually do that, I don't know why he did it. Just curious, I think. Even after he put it under the cup attachment, he wanted to hold on to it.

the b.m. -- after his fountain experience, I left him to do a bowel movement because I didn't want him messing his underwear on his very first diaperless day in school. I thought that would be embarrassing for him and would set him back. But we were running out of time, so eventually I had to take him off the potty so we wouldn't be late...

which is when he peed the second time! and then I had to clean him up, change his socks, underwear and pants, and then I put him back on the potty because I thought he might do a b.m. (since he clearly wasn't finished the first time). He didn't do anything, so I brought him in.

So apologies for bringing him late, I was making some tough calls this morning and trying to do the right thing.